If you don't already read her blog, you should!
Nina is funny as hell, but she also brings up some issues that make you think. This morning, she was ranting on a few issues in her RANT blog, and it got me to thinking. I didn't want to write a small novel in the comment section of her blog, so I came to my own to respond. I would definitely recommend reading her rant on the teenager who died in Aruba before continuing on with my blog.
Nina Writes:
"Again, I'm not blaming the victim, but maybe family, friends, and the media shouldn't be so afraid to point out the the mistakes these young girls made that contributed to their deaths. We should be able to talk about it so that maybe, just maybe, it will help the young girls that are still here. Like my daughter, and yours."
And then later writes in the comments section of her own blog:
"Kali doesn't know it yet, but I'm going on spring break with her."
So, here are my thoughts
I adamantly think that we should be educating the world on what happened in all of these horrific instances. That is why I am so hard on my son most of the time. I want his choices to be thought through. I try to make everything about choices. From the smallest thing for instance last night we were ordering Pizza, he didn't want Pizza. The choice was, Pizza or Peanut Butter and Jelly, or he didn't eat. Simple choice.
Or the harder decisions like this Alex is a very entrepreneurial boy. He can make a lot of money when he sets his mind to it and like any other 12 year old, it burns a hole in his pocket so quick. When he wants to make any purchase (other than a small candy item) we make him think about it for a while. The time we make him think on it ranges from a couple of days to a few weeks. We all know that kids who want something will buy it then be sorry later that they didn't wait cuz they just found this other really cool thing.
Here is where I get the most strange looks and arguments when it comes to how we raise our son.
Alex is allowed to cuss. Has been able to since he was 10. He is not allowed to say Fuck or Cunt, and he is NOT allowed to cuss at any parental unit.
Alex plays video games up to and including Vice City. BUT, he is not allowed to play that particular game without me or his mom in the house and without express permission. If I catch him playing it without the requirements met he loses the whole gaming station for a said period of time.
Alex got caught smoking - His punishment came from not the act of smoking, but from not being able to say no. He told us that he really didn't want to smoke, but that his cousin pressured him into it. We made his bad choice the reason we punished him, not the act. Hell all kids will try smoking or drinking. So now he knows (because he spent two laboring weeks pulling weeds) that he has the right to say no.
Alex has 43 Playboys That is my next blog cuz it is funny as hell!
Alex has a Cell Phone I know where he is and who he is with at all times.
My point to all of this is I know what my son is doing, saying, watching, who he is with, and what he is into. ALL PARENTS NEED TO DO THIS. I am not saying do it my way. But know what your kids are up to. If you know your kids they will be less likely to end up dead in Aruba, or behind a bar in NYC.
~Peace
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